Male submissives

[Tufty]

Ah, the 'lack of male subs' thing...something that I've often thought about since joining this place.

Dave thinks that many male subs are 'poor communicators?' Oh dear...so what does that say about male subs??? Does that mean that male doesn't communicate well because he is submissive - or are we talking about males in general?????????

James2024 said that "...The simple answer is that even in a community that is suppose to be open minded us male submissive are often totally misunderstood. we are looked at as freaks as if we are doing something wrong."

Erm...I have NEVER had that feeling here - in fact, quite the opposite!

Jeanne said "...I have noticed many male subs posting introductions, but then they seem to disappear. I have no idea why - thay may be joining in order to access the library chat rooms. I don't visit there so I don't know that for a fact.

Now comes my opinion. I have talked to a couple of Dommes - and they say that often males subs have a very specific script for the Domme to follow. The Dommes said that was incredibly irritating, and they do not want anything to do with that. So maybe some male subs are more into having fantasies fulfilled than actually submitting to another.

Yes, there have certainly been a few male subs that have joined and they do seem to vanish fairly quickly. I have only ever spoken with one male sub in chat (I don't go there often, either) and this guy certainly seemed to out to fulfill his fantasies

I agree that many will see FemDom as a fantasy - and I do know of one Domme that has become so pissed off with being contacted by male submissives asking if she will do this and that - and she now simply doesn't bother to reply to PMs!

I do agree with Dixie Lass to a certain extent that the male subs coming here tend not to post much information in their profiles. I smiled when I saw her comment about the introductions; "...Hello. I am submissive and I want a woman to dominate me and beat me up. Call me." Every time I see an intro like that, it just makes my eyes roll and I think to myself, "Oh no, not another one!" What happened to 'getting to know people' - or don't folk bother with things like that these days? I suppose thats where the communication thing comes in

Is it the stereotypical 'Macho' thing as well? While it may be OK in fantasy to be dominated by a female, the majority of males wouldn't admit to it.

[Ozme52]

Ah, the 'lack of male subs' thing...something that I've often thought about since joining this place.

Dave thinks that many male subs are 'poor communicators?' Oh dear...so what does that say about male subs??? Does that mean that male doesn't communicate well because he is submissive - or are we talking about males in general?????????

-------------(in response to the "freak" comment)

Erm...I have NEVER had that feeling here - in fact, quite the opposite!

-------------(in response to the "intro and done" comment)

Yes, there have certainly been a few male subs that have joined and they do seem to vanish fairly quickly. I have only ever spoken with one male sub in chat (I don't go there often, either) and this guy certainly seemed to out to fulfill his fantasies

I agree that many will see FemDom as a fantasy - and I do know of one Domme that has become so pissed off with being contacted by male submissives asking if she will do this and that - and she now simply doesn't bother to reply to PMs!

I do agree with Dixie Lass to a certain extent that the male subs coming here tend not to post much information in their profiles. I smiled when I saw her comment about the introductions; "...Hello. I am submissive and I want a woman to dominate me and beat me up. Call me." Every time I see an intro like that, it just makes my eyes roll and I think to myself, "Oh no, not another one!" What happened to 'getting to know people' - or don't folk bother with things like that these days? I suppose thats where the communication thing comes in

Is it the stereotypical 'Macho' thing as well? While it may be OK in fantasy to be dominated by a female, the majority of males wouldn't admit to it.

Exactly my points Tufty. You're the perfect example of a submissive male who makes his way through these forums just fine. As I said, patience and persistance.