I think the problem (if it may be seen as such, personally I don't) in this site is that we have intelligent and insightful posts and the successful Dom/mes and subs are those who participate in discussions in intelligent and insightful ways. Some men come here looking for a quick, dirty shag or a bit of online play and, finding nothing but discussions on everything from politics and religion to 'what is a sub', get bored and wander off elsewhere.
At least I hope this is the case otherwise my whole strategy for getting a quick, dirty shag is useless (and I have been pursuing it for several years so far, success may not be far ahead...

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