Although I'm not 40 yet, my submission is also a recent thing, completely unexpected & totally at odds with who I am & unlike the other stories posted in the thread mentioned above where everyone seemed to know their tendencies since childhood. I don't think this makes me any less but rather speaks to my physical & mental strength that it took so long for a dominant enough man to come along & teach me that I can't always be in control & that it can be very good to submit to the right person. I like being independent, as it sounds like you are, making my own decisions & way in life. But I accept that there's a part of me that likes being submissive, taking direction from & wanting to give of myself to the right type of dominant.