Quote Originally Posted by usbabe View Post
I can find parts of myself in almost every response in this thread. I did not even know what BDSM was until a year ago and I'm 47. I met a dom online and he introduced me to my submissive self. He also encourages and pushes me to constantly be learning about the lifestyle and about myself. I have to say my entire life has been a struggle, right from childhood when i was always in survival mode. I did recognize a few years ago that i was sick of trying to survive on my own and started looking for a man who was stronger and could handle me. I am an educated, workaholic, who is head strong, opinionated, a self-starter and can do anything i need to get done, by myself. How does that sound for a submissive? Although, when i met this dom online, something inside of me opened up, changed. When we talk on the phone my voice automatically softens.....my whole demeanor changes. That was not something he asked for it just is.

So yes......i am submissive.......i am learning constantly.......and i am an 'old' newbie. Looks like I've found my group. I love this thread....by the way.
Thanks, usbabe. I know what you mean about the voice. Mine definitely rises and softens when I'm in submissive mode with my Master. I can't help it, I'm responding naturally to the dynamics of the power exchange.


I am enjoying very much the tales of older women/late-on subs, and something about us has occurred to me. I said earlier that late to BDSM subs might be seen as 'lesser' in some way - that 'proper' submission is ingrained and shows itself early, as post after post here seems to attest. But consider - we older women have had many years of vanilla relationships/vanilla sex, so when we come across BDSM, we know the difference. And for us to come to terms with submission under those ingrained circumstances, accept it in ourselves, make those tentative, sometimes shocking, steps towards what we somehow find we need within ourselves...don't you think that's a profound and wonderful thing? The need must be deep to effect such a change. How fascinating a sub like that!