is the feeling of power more intense...

[TheseDays]

Well for me I like being able to see my tommiecat be able to be in control of her life. Not letting people push her around and making decisions for her and the such.

For me her submission to me is based on the love that we have for each other. It's always going to be based on that. She submits to be because she loves me.

Her and I are always working on her self image and how she carries herself as a human being. How she lets others affect her and the such. Her submission to me is in a large part is a tool for me to be able to show her that she is a very strong individual and that she never has to do anything that she doesn't.

I am very proud to know that my tommiecat is a very strong individual and that she is able to submit to me and yet still remain in control of her life. That in it self makes me teary eyed because I know that my kittehns life hasn't been the best and that her self confidence and the like is an area that she has been wanting to improve on. In the time that she has been with me she HAS improved. That makes me very happy.

Not sure if that answers your question or not but when I see my tommiecat being able to be her own person in HER life I am very happy. She submits to me but she is still in control of her life.

*smiles*

[cadence]

Being a doormat is not about being timid in everyday life, it's more along the lines of a submissive who gives up thier submission all too freely. They ignore thier limits, they only exist to please thier Dominant, never taking responsibility for thier own actions, choices or happiness.
Basically a doormat submissive is a robot submissive.

A submissive should know within thier relationship with thier Dominant when to be submissive and when to be a companion.

I am an extremely shy person, prone to avoiding most social interactions with others. I don't like to stand out in a crowd, but prefer to blend in and stay quiet. I still have a job, and other interests which I enjoy.
That isn't saying I can't have a relationship with another person and be submissive to them.
I make the choices to be with another Dom, I set my limits and do what makes me happiest. I don't do what another tells me to do, because I am submissive.

[Pearlgem]

Being a doormat is not about being timid in everyday life, it's more along the lines of a submissive who gives up thier submission all too freely. They ignore thier limits, they only exist to please thier Dominant, never taking responsibility for thier own actions, choices or happiness.
Basically a doormat submissive is a robot submissive.

A submissive should know within thier relationship with thier Dominant when to be submissive and when to be a companion.

I am an extremely shy person, prone to avoiding most social interactions with others. I don't like to stand out in a crowd, but prefer to blend in and stay quiet. I still have a job, and other interests which I enjoy.
That isn't saying I can't have a relationship with another person and be submissive to them.
I make the choices to be with another Dom, I set my limits and do what makes me happiest. I don't do what another tells me to do, because I am submissive.

I suppose you were a little off topic, cadence, but I found this a lovely and insightful response and one I'll remember. Thanks for sharing x x

[cadence]

well i didnt mean to imply that if a sub is not a doormat that they are overly controlling of their life.... i am talking about the pure act of dominating a sub. So basically i dont think about the relationship aspect.

like i am a slave thru and thru but in everyday life i am a TOTAL control freak (admittedly not as badly as i was before my Lord) but i can seem like a total bitch sometimes because i am so over bearing at times.... many people get the impression that i am almost arrogant about my abilities because admittedly i do think highly of my intellegence and the few actual abilities that i do... which is one of the reasons i am a slave... i wanna be able to trust someone to take that control from me that is able to... (my Lord is definately able to and put me in my place )

Now what if there is a natural sub/slave is much more relaxed has basic control of their lives in the typical manner but does not nessicarily exude the traits of dominance as much as someone like me does... i admittedly over do it but not the extent i used too at all

Now if You were to dominate both of these two different, yet not the only types, sub/slaves consentually in turn..... which would You think would give You more of that "feeling" whatever it may be that You get when you dominate a sub.... or would it not make a difference...

i ask this because in stories i read on here there is a common theme of the love of dominating someone that is so dominant in everday life

I suppose you were a little off topic, cadence, but I found this a lovely and insightful response and one I'll remember. Thanks for sharing x x

oopsies, sorry about that, I guess that will teach me to read and not skim over posts.

PS does the fact that I can be Dominated even though I have agressive, excessive road rage count