Quote Originally Posted by damyanti
One of the greatest misconceptions about submissives, and I would dare say the leading reason why we don't tell more people in our "vanilla" life, is that submissives are "weak". *snort*

For a long time I have had the same thought myself, I admit...but then I came to realize it depends on your definition of need. Just because I don't need him, doesn't mean I don't need him. When did need become such a dirty word? We are human, it is part of all of ours nature to need human contact...what we are not is desperate, and for some reason two are often considered synonyms.
Brilliant thoughts here, damyanti. I would have denied a lot of needs when I was younger, seeing them as weaknesses that should not be exposed, but I've learned as I got older the nature of need and not to be so hard on myself. It's a graceful gift to offer the real you to others and of course subs and Doms (and all the rest of us) need each other.


As for someone thinking less of "older" submissives *ggl*, it never even occurred to me...age is a state of spirit:

It's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln

We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations. Anaïs Nin
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You rock, ladies!!!
I reckon I was a late developer in many ways but that's okay, it was right for me. I wonder when I'll feel fully grown up? I'm addicted to Guitar Hero!