tina,

I don't think you're "out of your league" in any conceivable manner. For one, it's not a league with minimum standards of play. And other than being allowed to have limits, there is no rule book.

I say take what you enjoy from the lifestyle and leave the rest for another time. And "most" dom/mes will be just fine with that. Even those of us who are always playing around the edges of the envelope, know we often find real pleasure in the simple joys of having a devoted submissive who's own pleasure comes from serving us.

We may still push and prod at the edges, try to make you a tad uncomfortable even, but I wouldn't ask my girl to do something I know she abhors.