NOT to compare subs to children but my mother often let me pick my own punishments growing up ....I would give myself a much harsher punishment than she would ever give me. So when I would say grounded for a week ....she would move it to just a weekend. She looked like the good guy in the situation ....damn my mother was a smart one. I believe it's great to have your sub give their own punishments. I believe in CHOICES always. The sub can't be mad ever at YOU for making when they made their CHOICE now can they????