I do believe that all of you gave great advice but feel compelled to make a comment about Oz's advice. In some ways it is wonderful getting an experienced sub ....but that also depends on certain things. I myself went from being a sub to being a Domme and actually had a VERY experienced Sub to play with. I believe that all beginers have this rookie feeling of not having the confidence. That experience sub didn't make me feel very confident even though he was trying to be helpful....his suggestions made me feel weak and made me feel like I coudln't get it right. It wasn't until I had a Mentor teaching me and only AFTER She taught me did I gain some confidence. Then I couldn't WAIT to play with that experienced sub again to show him just how far I had come. But like I said earlier .....It depends on the person. It was only my circumstances that an experience sub didn't really serve as a great purpose and learned a great more from a Domme who had was willing to teach me. Though now I'm debating whether to post this ....knowing full well that experience sub comes to this site LMFAO