I agree if all us doms did was punish bad behavior my arms would be sore from all the strokes i would have to deliver. It's best to reward than to punish or to take privlages away. She could be a painslut and likes to be punished i have delt wiht one like that I think it would eb so much easier for the to ask for a beating instead of being bad. In any case you need to talk to her and try to get her to open up and speak her mind which is not always easy to do.