Quote Originally Posted by rachel06 View Post
Rules aren't for when they clearly apply. If you're with someone and think, oops, this is really someone I don't want in my car, or whatever, then you don't need a rule to tell you what to do. You already know. Rules are for when they DON'T clearly apply. For the super-nice guy who says he's clean. For the hot guy that you want to impress too much to ask to see his ID before you fuck him. Those are the times when you want to argue with the rule, to say, this is a special case and the rule doesn't apply here. And for me, I've decided, no. I thought of these safety rules when I was focused and aware and knew that things aren't always what they seem, or why would we need them? So I will always follow my rules, no exceptions, because if I have to rethink them every time, then they're not rules, they're just good ideas.
Excellent clarification, rachel, especially as it's come to you from good, solid personal experience and a bit of thought. Our rules can alter a little over time and with experience, I guess, but once we decide what they should be, keep to them. We can all benefit from the above. Thanks. x x