Don't give up!

Your relationships should be consentual and trusting.

If you can't communicate with someone i would not advise doing anything with them. If you acn communicate and the dom is receptive and responsive to your desires then you can explore things. But also be careful, there is NO excuse for a Dom who hurts a sub without thier consent and desire. or for one who does not know what the sub wants from conversations and paying attention to the sub's response.