Some people are damaged. Whether it be from past experiances, family of origin issues, or what not. But just because you desire this life style doesn't mean you are damaged. If you feel you are damaaged goods and that works for you, then fine. It doesn't seem unhealthy from that stand point. It's the people that are truly damaged and know it or are in denial that about it and don't work thru the issues that are emotoinally unhealthy. Thats not good. But simlply because you like this life style doesn't mean you are damaged goods.