Quote Originally Posted by satisfied{SW} View Post
As a Dom/me how do you handle this?
By being observant and not counting on a safeword.

Do you just keep going unless a safeword is used?
No. That's insane. I jeep going until I am finished

Or is there some sign that you look for or notice that things have gone too far and for whatever reason your sub hasn't safeworded but needs to stop? What is something ie. facial expression, noise, etc. that your sub does that tells you that it's time to stop even though they havn't said their safe word?
Even "signs" aren't reliable as those can be reliant on a person's mental space.

The biggest question of all.....How many of you honestly weren't aware that subs sometimes won't or can't use their safe words, even when they desperately need to?
I was aware.

This is an area where there is no good solution beyond using good judgment and knowing your partner. If you can't count on critical feedback, either you don't go there or you take the risk and rely on your own judgment and knowledge.