*completely agrees with damyanti*
Hey, don´t feel bad. I don´t even write / say stuff in my mother tongue, but seek refuge in using a foreign one. For some reason I feel like "this is not really me, being kinky", and I have no trouble if I do it in English.
I can send him parts of stories I like. I even write scenes I imagine down and send those to him. And I can express my wishes in English, speaking in a halfway normal voice.
Writing is a LOT easier, though. *shoots a poisonous glance at Stone*

I agree it is easy to talk in general terms, but the second it gets personal, I get all tongue-tied.

I must add it is easier for me if I am either 1. a little bit tipsy or 2. VERY, VERY horny. *lol*

As for what symphony says: I feel something similar, though "silly" would be too nice a word to describe it.
A man begging me to do something is a complete, total, and absolute turn-off for me.
And I am not only afraid of being such a turn-off by voicing my desires, but I also have this small voice in the back of my head that whispers "he will say no. he will be grossed out and horrified. he will laugh at you."

I really should know better after 11 years of being together, during which he never was anything but encouraging to me, but my experience with vanilla guys just scared a part of me into hiding...