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I hoped that helps. I also had a related question of my own. Like I said I"m knew to this and after a particularly rough session where I might have been punished I feel an intense desire to cuddle. It feels oddly inappropriate though. Does anyone else have this feeling or know why someone would want to cuddle after being punished?[/QUOTE]

wow this is something that I have read about. But it is a somewhat common occurrence with subs. It is called "sub drop" there is an article about it that might be helpful for you:

here is part of an article from another site

D/s is all encompassing in the sense that its not just about scenes, and highs, and fun, and pain, and control, and all the exciting things we do. Its about real people, and their needs, and wants. The intense activities that are part of a D/s or BDSM relationship do sometimes have their downsides as well. This article will deal with one of those downsides. Sub Drop.

After all the emotional highs of the elevation of a submissive into subspace, the return to normality can have a profound effect on both Dominant and submissive. Each in their own way has reached a level rarely achieved in daily life, and which, very often, neither is prepared for.

Sub drop; the coming down, the return to normality, can happen quickly, or slowly. It can be a nice experience, or a bad one. And the effects, good or bad, can last almost no time at all, or they can go on for hours, even days

if you want to read the whole article it can be found either by googling "sub drop" or by going to seekers.org.uk/sub drop.htm

I hope this helps