I am rather new as well, in the simple fact that after years of just going things off and on "when I could get away with them" with my vanilla ex, I finally started to actually get more involved in BDSM. This being stated I may be able to help slightly, should it be wanted, possibly more. PM me if you wish to follow up on this.

btw, I see what he means with the whole Domme and Dom thing, but I agree with fetish. I have had Domme friends, and while they have helped, the one other Dom I know has helped me alot more than they have.