Before I was married there was no way I could have been submissive. Even when we were first married. I was too strong willed and stubborn to let any man have control over me. But as time grew on, before I ever discovered bdsm, I realized that my JonnyI should be the head of house, and that I should stop trying to be. (It's a lot more complicated than that, this is the condensed version lol) So no, I don't think that you are "born" submissive. I think it is a learned trait.