Bringing back this thread to inspire newbie lurkers...


Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?

Probably the internet. I don't remember.

What was its appeal to you?

Sheer naughtiness.

What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?

That only damaged people sought out that lifestyle.

What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?

I just wanted perspective on my inner demon, and I think the past two years have given me oodles of that.

Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?

A dabbler. I'm a gentle person. It would take a lot (of begging) for me to willing harm someone I was intimate with.

What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?

The sacrifice of a partner opening up to you and trusting you not to take it beyond her limits.

What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)?
I don't. That would be a very prickly relationship, and I'm not even prepared for a conventional one today...