I do the same. Even now after all this time I do it. Not to the same extent it used to be though. Now it's little things. Like, I'll complain about wanting to cut my hair. Which I know for a fact is something I am NOT allowed to do. More than wanting to cut my hair, I want him to say no. Even if it's a distracted response, actually somehow the distracted response means more. Because even when he's not fully paying attention, he remembers the rules he's set and will not allow me to break them.

I don't need to be constantly reminded. But, to me it's the same as being told "I love you." I know he loves me, he doesn't ever have to say it again and I'll know. But, he does say it. Same as I occasionally like to hear "I love you" I also like to be reminded that he is still fully in control of me.


Quote Originally Posted by unmastered View Post
I am a sub and heres my two cent:... I know personally, sometimes i need to see if a Dom can TRUELY dominate me. Especially in the begining. It is my nature( too many years vanilla i guess ) to see what I can get away with. As much as I know that being submissive makes me the happiest, I need to feel that He is the one to give my submission to. I know that I am a sub that NEEDS to be broken(mmm..sometimes over and over....lol ) and never let to forget that is is HE who is in charge. Not because I want to be in charge. Just the opposite, but because I need to know He allways will be .

The consensus here is correct. Let her know without a doubt, without options, without consideration, that they way You say things are going to be... it is....

Like the famous line" So let it be written. Let it be done."

good luck Sir