There has been only one time where I felt we needed to discuss this kind of boundary, and that is with my role as High Priestess to my coven.

While Mia'Cova would never compromise my position at work by revealing too much, my coven is very close and like family. We know each other's kinks, etc. One of my coven-mates jokingly said, "A coven is so close that we will know the color of each other's underwear".

Now, I don't mind them KNOWING about what I do, but I do mind them SEEING it to a certain extent. Knowing that your HPS likes to be spanked and submissive is one thing. Seeing it in action is quite another. I felt that it might be hard for some of them to respect me after seeing me beg, or be spanked things like that.

So, we respect that boundary with certain close friends, but I can allow myself to be seen as His pet with others.