Quote Originally Posted by Sanapet View Post
I think that first I need to explain my situation. My Master and I have been together for 2 and a half years and W/we've had one 'break-up' at the beginning of O/our relationship because His long-time on again off again girlfriend wanted Him back but He wouldn't give up being my Master for her so He stopped dating me. I tried and failed to cause as few problems as possible and final she dumped Him and W/we've been happy together ever since as both a dating couple and a Master and slave.

Recently, W/we've stated to be much more open and comfortable with each other and He's asked me to... to top Him a few times. It was fine when He asked online and I could give Him what He wanted without having to be emotionally involved but since He lost His internet connection W/we've been talking on the phone, yes that includes phone sex.

I've always been very shy and self-conscious and He was the first person I've ever had phone sex with, but that's not my problem. While I'm being submissive I have very few inhibitions with Him. The problem is that He's asked me several times to play domme for Him over the phone. The first time I was frustrated and furious with life in general and I ended up taking that out on Him accidentally, but He enjoyed it.

My problem is when I try to top Him without being angry at something first, W/we have to go through so much drama to get me in the mindset I need for topping Him that it's not very much fun for either of U/us. And when W/we're finished he has to be very firm with me to remind me of my place and it sort of kills the mood.

If possible I would greatly appreciate any advice on how to switch back and forth when He needs me to.

Thank Y/you A/all, submissively,

Sana
First, not everybody can switch back and forth at the whim of just one of the partners. Not even switches.

I would think that you need to ask yourself if this is something you can and want to do. Remember that we can only give what we have in us to give.

Admittedly it is not always easy to find out, as to many people starting to dom means getting over a hurdle. But still, if you feel you cannot, or cannot neccesarily when he happens to wants to, or only can online, then I think you need to tell him.

How did it feel to do it online? Was that ok?
I'd say doing on the phone is a hard way to start.

If you want to do this, then I agree that you need to sit and talk about it, and let him explain in much greater detail what he is into - what he wants. Then you can see if you think it is something you can and want to do.

Do by all means present his answers here, I am sure we can give you some inspiration :-)

Finally, are you doing this because you are afraid of loosing him again? A powerful motive - but it doesn't work that way. If you want to, fine. If not, you cannot give it, but he will likely be ok with having you as sub.