Trust and Honesty

[LolitaDoll]

Trust and honesty are very important.

The big question I have is this - How would his ex girlfriend have found out about him being with you if he gave you his REAL information? I don't know about anyone else, but when I first start dating someone, I don't plaster their REAL information all over the net and tell everyone so how would the ex have found out? The way I see it is she'd only have found out if HE TOLD HER.

I am big on being paranoid and analyzing each and every question possible about each and every situation. I've been accused of over analyzing but it has helped me to not be so heartbroken when I actually follow my own advice from analyzing the situation.

My fiance has lied to me so many times and has done things behind my back the past 2 years we've been back together. To be honest, he doesn't have my 100% trust. He's lucky if he has 50%. I now monitor his computer usage, phone calls, etc. If I start to feel like something more is going on, I'll be putting up cameras. As you can see, I'm not one to let someone break my heart. We ALL deserve the truth about things, especially from our loved ones so for me - if I feel like I'm being lied to, I'll find out for myself. Point blank.

Anyways. As a suggestion, you could just continue to have a friendship with him for the next couple of years. Whenever you two can see each other on an everyday basis then you could see where things lead. It sounds like he helped you quite a bit, no matter what his name, age, or looks are. So you could at least have a friend for the time being and who knows, over time of being good friends you may fall in love with the REAL him. The most important thing though is to follow your heart. Don't let anyone put you on a guilt trip or pressure you to be with him. Do what is best for you and your feelings. In the ends, that is the most important - YOU!

Good luck on what ever you decide to do.