How about asking him to come here, to maybe come into the chat room and as little kitty says maybe he would see that we aren't all about tight shiny leather and chains..... although those things can be good *winks*

Having said that - I don't believe you can 'force' him to do anything - But maybe get him to read your post and explain that there isn't anything 'wrong' with what he is doing but that exploring further together might just be fun

Good luck and let us know how it goes

minxy