Agree with all the thoughtful answers already written. Adding my own, Amber's point about being 'vague' about personal information can be considered sensible but outright lying about it... FOR EIGHT MONTHS seems extremely suspicious. Also, I've been around coworkers who have gotten phone calls. I didn't need an "explanation" from them about who was calling. That is a lame excuse.

What is important is knowing that the trust you had in this person no longer exists and you know what to do based on that. Also, try not to be too hard on yourself, as so many of us are out there looking for special people and it's easier than most people think to get caught up in something deceptive. There are lots of guys out there who can give you what you need, help you find the true submissive inside you, and all while doing it legit!