This is a great topic; thank you for bringing it up. I, too, have found it frustrating to realize that bondage requires both time and, at times, re-tying of knots; that I have to get up to pee; and other little tics (like Ma'am humming to herself or furrowing her brow when tying knots) that just don't appear in my fantasy life. It's very important for me to be reminded, here, that fantasy is just that -- not real. I take particular inspiration from these postings by reminding myself that my reactions of being irritated or feeling let down when real life doesn't correspond to my fantasies are just one more way that I am being judgmental and not relinquishing all control to my Ma'am. Many thanks, friends.