First, i have come to the understanding there is no normal, there is each person doing what they do for their own reasons. To provide for themselves, to give themselves happiness, ect.

now i look back on it, i don't think it's one or the other but both. i'll use my horse examples. i could have a race horse with great lines born to run, but hey i don't feel like racing, so i'm going to train him to jump. He breed to race but i trained him to do something else. On the other hand i could have trail horse and (if the conditions were right) take him and make him a great race horse with training and time. i think the same goes a bit for humans. we're born with traits, a whole big set of them. our families, friends, life takes those traits and shapes them. (then we end up looking back and saying how did i get that fucked up? lol)

But i don't think one or the other is stronger in making us the way we are, it's how we process it and figure things out that make us...us.

~j~