One question- though the OP seemed (not totally clear) to only be talking about how dom/mes should direct and control the behavior of their subs. I am wondering how many of the users of this board (chat, forums, stories, etc...) are part of a dyad? I get the feeling that the majority are not, and of those that are, they are either in an online only relationship or their partner does not partake of this board (much if at all). I don't think it would be easy for the dom/me to have much if any authority in those situations.

If the sub does chose to "behave" in a way that the dom/me does approve of, I think it is 100% the sub's choice, not the dom/me's. And dom/mes would be pretty lame, for lack of a better term, for trying to take credit for that. Its a wonderful thing-a good sub does the right thing just because they care about what the dom/me cares about. No permission needed.