How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?

I think it was the way most people did. The occasional portrayal of a Domme in movies, and a bit of porn in my teenage years. I think it's safe to say I didn't find out anything _real_ about the BDSM lifestyle until I got internet access

What was its appeal to you?

To start with it was just another fantasy for a teenager along with a whole lot of other things. It was really only later on that I started thinking of bdsm as something I could really get into in a big way.

What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?

Well back in my tender youth I thought it was some crazy dangerous thing (porn magazines don't teach you much about safewords), and I figured people into the s&m side of it were probably a bit unbalanced.

What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?

I'd mainly like people to know that it's fun, it's safe, and it doesn't have to be really full-on and psycho like virtually every kinky character in mainstream TV makes it seem.

Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?

Just a player. I'm all over the place and don't take many things seriously.

What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?

I'm a sub, and for me it's the nervous thrill. It's like when you're a kid and your friend's older brother talks you into going on the monstrously, stupidly, humungously big scary rollercoaster, and you're absolutely shitscared while you're waiting in line, but it's the sort of scared that really picks you up, and you know that the ride's not something you'd want to miss.

What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)? [/B][/QUOTE]

Well there's a guy I'm seeing now and then. First thing I liked about him was that he turned out to actually like being a Dom. I rocked up to his place for my first bit of youthful experimentation with another guy and made some joke about getting tied to the bedposts, and the next thing ya know I _am_ tied to the bedposts. Apart from that it's the fact that he's very considerate and doesn't try pressuring people into stuff they really don't wanna do. Oh, and I think he's ready to give anything a go once (at least I haven't haven't heard him veto any ideas yet, but then again it's still early days).




Rallan