The trick is melding what your sub wants with your needs. The more she is satisfied, the more she will be open to suggestion and willing to satisfy your needs too, making things mutually beneficial. Search the forum for the partner checklist, you may be surprised at some of her responses.

I find that reading stories is a good way of finding things that turn you on and ideas for what she would like. The best thing of course, is to find a mentor but that can be hard depending on your area.

Good luck, eh?