W/we have been pretty lucky and the boundaries have been working themselves out. i have been learning to be respectful to this degree when the kids are around, i have found a name that i can call Him that means Master in an obscure language and He has put a belled anklet on to remind me of my submission as i tend to get bratty with teenagers in the house ( i sink to their level i guess) Master has chosen a word to use when there needs to be a discussion He knows i am being honest about how i feel rather than submitting to Him. He has been consistently considerate of my work schedule and i his. W/we are getting married this spring and the longer W/we are together the more it seems right to us to live this way. i am quietly hoping He gets me one of those locking collars that looks like jewelry so i don't have to jingle but i doubt He will take it off. He said its like belling a cat.