Quote Originally Posted by wykked_lil_angl View Post
Ok, I have never posted here before, and I usually prefer to remain in the background, but I am curious...
wow... I always thought there were certian qualities everyone was born with that steers them more towards being a leader, a.k.a. Dominant, or a follower, a.k.a., submissive... Never really thought about it as anything else, it's a different concept for me. I , for instance am the only member of my family to have these qualities, am the youngest of 4, 2 of whom had similar things happen to them, altho, it was at a much earlier age for me. I have always delighted in giving. Not one to have to have anything in return, just to see the pleasure on the face of another. Unfortunately, this has had quite a few drawbacks, as I am quite easily taken advantage of..therefore, I guard my inner-self as much as possible. I could comply with those who say that molestation as a child does sometimes bring these characteristics to the forefront, however, as I was molested by a family member at the tender age of 4, and once again by a different family member at the age of 8. So there is that possibility as well. But yet, here again, 2 of my siblings had similar instances, and they do not even have a 10th of the submissive traits that I have. And being the youngest of 4 girls, my father raised us to depend on ourselves.. I choose to give control to another, and gain an intense amount of pleasure from just a simple "good girl"....so.....I am curious to see what anyone would make of my situation..would you consider it genetic? or family environment? What category would I fall under?

I am not an expert but I have beliefs, one being the brain is still being programmed up to the age ten, much like a computer. Being molested at the age of 4 and again at the age of 8 must have an effect on the way you think, and that in itself would do one of two things. Your brain would tell you to, either be submissive and stay safe, or be aggressive and fight back and dominate your aggressor. This is not fact but I think there is a sound argument in that statement, and it works for me. Try reading denuseri,’s thread [victims of abuse support for submissives] there might be in the many posts the very answer your looking for.

Regards ian 2411