Quote Originally Posted by denuseri View Post
No its not as uncommon as you may think.

Have you sat him down and discussed this with him?
Well not really sat Him down and talked to Him about it, but over the past year at least, i have made it quite clear in my diary that He reads, of the sort of things that i would love, and for Him to do (if He wanted to of course) as well as buying a great BDSM movie (this sparked something HUGE in Him so i know He has it in Him) for U/us that is quite rough, and pulling up bdsm videos online for U/us to watch together, etc. He understands completely. It is just that He wants to build into BDSM slowly, because until He met me, He had never EVER hit, spanked, pushed, held down, etc a female and does NOT want to hurt me (although He has given me some serious sessions from time to time and that only makes me crave it more)

Over the past year or so i have also built our "space" up nicely with all sorts of clamps, whips, tape, rope, etc. He is REALLY getting into the "pretty" bondage and that is wonderful. He has learned a lot about that, and i haven't "escaped" from his rope in a very long time now that He knows how.

He can do it and is getting better, but wow, it is hard not to pick sometimes just to get Him riled up when it has been weeks on end without any BDSM if that makes sense. i am so bad for doing that, i know it...