It's one thing to ask for what you need and desire. It's another thing to pick at things to "rile" him up. I went through the same thing with my Mistress in the begining and She said I was trying to top from the bottom. I soon learned this wasn't a good thing and I had to just go at Her pace where She was comfortable. After some time things got to a level where we both are satisfied. I have learned just exactly how far I can push Her for attention before it turns into denial and that really sucks!