I, too, have found myself doing things that I know will get my Mistress' goat, just so she will unleash a bit more. It's a little more complicated for us though. I have been of a submissive bend since my earliest memories, My Mistress on the other hand, has only in the the last year or so even acknowledged that she is Dominant, much less anything but vanilla. She truly is very good at it, and the more she lets it go, the more she enjoys, and is fulfilled, by the role. Like so many in our little world, she has a hard time reconcilling her desires with the dogma that has been beaten into us by the general society. She makes great strides, but sometimes needs a bit of coaxing. Sometimes I feel like it is topping from the bottom. Part of it is my wanting to help her be more comfortable and free with what she feels, and part of it is, admittedly, selfish...of course my being selfish as a sub should warrant a bit of correction, right?lol