i have learned that i can ask my Master if i am in the mood for pain, rather than trying to provoke it. He has also learned to use things other than pain as punishment for when He thinks i am looking for pain through bad behavior. i have had trouble accepting that i actually want pain, so beginning to ask with a "Master please" was harder than it seemed for me. He is much happier to reward me with a good flogging then to deal with creative punishments. Oh and a side note, as my Master explained to me, He happens to feel very protective of me at times and it is hard for Him to be too rough at times. It took time for Him to trust that i would tell Him if it was too much.