Well, I know that this is a common dilemma - people being so busy or stressed out with their jobs that they don't have the time or the mood for sex. I don't usually have that problem, as every few days at least the drive becomes strong enough that I want it even if I only have an hour between arriving at home and bedtime.

But BDSM adds one more small problem to this - even if I want sex, I find that the busier I am, the more vanilla my sex gets. Not only am I too tired and don't have enough time to enjoy an hour of complex bondage and spanking and teasing (which I love!), I also have to ask my Dom for much lighter treatment sometimes, as I'm afraid I'll be sore and achey at work the next day, and I can't afford that. Needless to say, that does kill the mood quite a bit.

If there's anyone here with really busy work schedules (like, wake up at 6am and back home at 8pm or so), I'd love to hear how you fit BDSM into it. Only on weekends, perhaps? Vanilla sex the rest of the time?