Short version... NO


TO receive the gift of submission from one it must be just that; a gift. Given freely, with total commitment on both ends. A submissive with low self esteem may not be capable of granting submission as a gift. It may be seen as something that ~must~ be paid. Not a gift but a price to be paid for whatever mental baggage the submissive is carrying around.

A submissive who is not in touch with him/herself can not grant you a gift. They can only shell out a facimily of a gift. Submission becomes more of a penance for imagined crimes or sins and is not worthy of acceptance.

Furthermore, and more importantly; a low self-esteemed sub is more likely to place themselves in a bad situation. A situation that hurts thier mental state rather than enhances it. Submissives like this are likely to find abusers as opposed to real Dominats. They do not want someone to care for and aid them as much as they want someone to take away thier choices and cause them further mental and physical harm.

If a low esteemed submissive is taken on by a Dominant they will not be happy simply becasue they are dominated. In fact they will probably become frustrated and try to provoke punishments they feel they deserve.

As thier submission is realy to thier own self serving self punishing feelings they are a danger to themselves. Also, to their Dominant. No dominant can compete with self loathing or self pity as a primary dominant in the submissive's life. Unless you like simply hurting and manipulating peoples emotions to negative ends. If so, you are not a Dominat, you are a dumb and an abuser and that is irresponsible and criminal.

On a more basic level, how can lack of slef esteem be a part of safe, sane, and conscensual? It is impossible. If a submissive aproaches you in a less than stable mental state, you can not Dominate them. IT is dangerous and irresponisble to try. You can and should get them to try and lift themselves back to a state of mental well being that everyoen should enjoy. For soem people this is impossible without professional assistance. SO don't try to force it.

The sub must be of sound mental state to submit, just as a Dominant must be so to dominate. The potential for damage outside of good mental states is staggering.

~LT~