Not to intrude here in you all's domain, but, respectfully:

I am not disagreeing with the mindset issue.

But personally, when a dominant puts his hand on the whip around me, I don't exactly think oh wow, I am gonna love whats coming next.

In other words, being spanked and such is only fun for those that like being spanked and such, for those of us who are not into pain in that way, its certiantly no hay ride.

Just some food for thought.