And yet, asking and not getting was a failure on his part? How is it not a demand (or if you prefer, a command.)

You might not have been in a scene... but you certainly wanted to start one. If not... then why did you need to discuss it at that moment and not days earlier or days later? The differences amid information sharing, negotiating, and in-scene topping are all about the timing.

I'm not saying don't have that conversation. I'm saying it doesn't work when what you want is to begin a scene. Postrating oneself is a far more effective way to express need... and if it doesn't work out the way you want... well, can't be submissive AND in control. Better to be a dominant and teach your sub to be a rope top in service to you.

Quote Originally Posted by playfulkitty9
And no, words would not have made the night easier and my submission more fulfilling.
Perhaps words would not be enough, but my point was that each of those bullets can lead to the next.

I know that when my girl sits at my feet I often react, dragging her to a place convenient to using her.