Male submissives

[Guera]

Lots of good information was lost, plus some silliness... I think FetishDJ mentioned that sub male physiologists are extra fun in bed, and I pointed out that mechanics are also very useful in bed. and other places.

[fetishdj]

Its all about what you can do to repair problems 'under the hood'

[Guera]

as well as routine maintenance, plus trouble shooting and diagnostics

[Keane]

I think many male subs are poor communicators, but i enjoy chat and getting to know someone. I tend to have pretty good relations with the people online. and i thank you all for your posts. If you want to be sucessful with any of the real Dommes here, you better learn how to communicate.
dave

I agree on that....

[Seri]

Or...just, to tip the otherside of the hat. Be yourself. Don't over communicate in your search. Just relax and be polite, there's no need to kneel to every domma. Just relax and let the ride take you. When it's time. Its time, there's nothing that any of us can do, and if you spend all of your time waiting and scraping your knees on the floor, then you are going to enjoy the ride a lot less the rest of us. In short. Be polite and be yourself.

~SeriBelle

[Guera]

at the same time, be prepared to spend some time on your knees, and not getting a thing out of it. you might want to have fun, but you get out of WIITWD, what you put in to it

[Seri]

Yes, of course. The trick is, to know when to kneel, and when not to. But I can't tell you how to know. That's something that every one just needs to learn on their own.

~SeriBelle

[wolfpup]

I'm a submissive male, but I play the role of a pet. I play the role as a wolf pup for my master, and I"m really into that. Even just eating out of a bowl has turned me on before.

[Guera]

I was talking to a friend, who is a male sub and really "gets the girls". He isn't especially special. He just wants to make sure that his domme has fun. It seems to work.

[moosehunter]

I'm a male submissive who has started several posts. The only time I recieved responses on my original which now is in the wrong catagory, dominants looking for submissives. I'm willing to most humbling activities and will try all types of self-punishment that shouldn't lead to serious injury. I'm married and my Wife does play with me from time to time.

So all I'm looking for here is ideas and online domination.

[SissySlut]

I'm trying to be an active male sub. It is hard out here, because SO many people want to be Dom's of females.

I think it's because male is "normally" the dominate role thats to society today, so when a inexperianced guy has to pick his role, 9/10 they will not choose sub, as it's "un-manly". Same with girls, I see a lot of female subs, who would be Domme's except for some reason, they think they can't be.

[IAN 2411]

SissySlut; I think you have got your facts a little mixed up, subs and Dom are not picked in a lottery whether male or female, it is normally a natrural accurence. A person is a sub for a multiple of reasons, but i doubt the being un-manly as you put it comes to my mind. I allowed my wife/Domme to be who she was, because at work i was master of my trade and master of my employees, to arrive home and give that up, and letting someone else take command if you like, has its own satisfaction. A person is a sub because they feel comfortable being in that position, but it does not mean that they are less manly than the body builder next door. As for female subs i would not dare to make assumptions, as they have their own reasons, and it might be better to ask them before making statements.

Regards ian 2411

[SissySlut]

SissySlut; I think you have got your facts a little mixed up, subs and Dom are not picked in a lottery whether male or female, it is normally a natrural accurence. A person is a sub for a multiple of reasons, but i doubt the being un-manly as you put it comes to my mind. I allowed my wife/Domme to be who she was, because at work i was master of my trade and master of my employees, to arrive home and give that up, and letting someone else take command if you like, has its own satisfaction. A person is a sub because they feel comfortable being in that position, but it does not mean that they are less manly than the body builder next door. As for female subs i would not dare to make assumptions, as they have their own reasons, and it might be better to ask them before making statements.

Regards ian 2411

Yes, but a lot of guys not experienced with BDSM just looking to get into the game naturally pick the Dom role, before they dive deep enough to discover their true nature, thats was i was saying.

[ravnseye]

I've only been a member here for less than a week. I have been masochist since before I knew what one was. For me, it took a great many years to get past the mask that society laid out for me. A few years ago, I accepted, and really started exploring who and what I was/am. Still, I do find it hard to be that in front of others, even in cyber space. In the really real world, I am about as redneck as it gets, more by the people in my life, and where I am and such. Since the first time I pinched my own nip while...er..."relaxing" I have known it wasn't something to talk about, because of what I was taught. Now, I try to get to know people, and read the situation, before I speak. So, for me anyway (I can speak for no other) it isn't a matter of hiding, it's a matter of assessing the place before I speak. I am a sub, and love being so. Give me time to know you, and soon you'll be telling me to shut up, instead of openup

[VicSub]

I really like this post. I am very new to this forum, and was at first surprised that there was a lack of female dommes in the dom looking for subs thread.

It is my personal belief that life is all about balance. In my public life, due to the profession I have chosen, I have to be a very dominate, go getting personality. I find it very exhausting and have to have some me time (for a better term). In my last relationship I had a girlfriend that was very dominate in the bedroom but somewhat submissive in public life. This is how I found out how enjoyable it was to give some one else control.

Now I have decided to take the journey to discover this side of my life.

I know I have my fantasies, through reading the stories in the library. But it is my belief that to fully enjoy my submissive side I have to give up my needs to someone else. I hope that this website will help me do this.

[IAN 2411]

I really like this post. I am very new to this forum, and was at first surprised that there was a lack of female dommes in the dom looking for subs thread.

It is my personal belief that life is all about balance. In my public life, due to the profession I have chosen, I have to be a very dominate, go getting personality. I find it very exhausting and have to have some me time (for a better term). In my last relationship I had a girlfriend that was very dominate in the bedroom but somewhat submissive in public life. This is how I found out how enjoyable it was to give some one else control.

Now I have decided to take the journey to discover this side of my life.

I know I have my fantasies, through reading the stories in the library. But it is my belief that to fully enjoy my submissive side I have to give up my needs to someone else. I hope that this website will help me do this.

VicSub don’t spend the best part of your life looking for something that might not be there. Fem Domme come in all ways and they do not wear a lable, because most dont know they are Domme until their chance comes along. There are many Fem Domme out there in the world but to find the right one is the crux of the matter. My wife/Mistress was not one before we got married, it started off mild and i allowed her to go to the lengths she did, and it was that reason my marraige lasted. I was playing a game of submissive with her, but unintentionally she was being Dominant, she was getting her buz at the same time i was getting mine, it was a real game that neither of us realised we were playing. There is more to a Fem Domme/ male sub than beating a man into the ground, and at the end of the day, there is a far stronger loyalty to each other than in a vanilla maraige.

Regards ian 2411

[thir]

most dont know they are Domme until their chance comes along.
Regards ian 2411

Why would you think that?

[IAN 2411]

Fem Domme come in all ways and they do not wear a lable, because most dont know they are Domme until their chance comes along.

Why would you think that?

I didn’t explain myself very clearly and I apologise for that, I was in fact referring to Domme’s in vanilla marriages. While writing my BDSM books I try to keep the theme to scenarios that take place in real life, and then I place the most extreme consequences that could possibly take place. But most of the starts to my book are based on real life experiences, and although they are not my experiences they are as real as you would like to believe. I get my ideas from forums in magazines, reader’s letters of their journey over to the dark side. I have to admit that possibly 50% should be on a wish list, but there are a few that hit home, and it is those few that I work on. I have had two wives and I loved them both, the latter more than the first, but neither was Domme before marriage, but after a time their intentions were made known. The first wife went to extreme to show that she was Domme, but it never took place over night, and I knew that she was never like that before marriage. It was caused by talking to her friends saying things to her, and because I let her get away with little things, the power went to her head. As I did explain, Domme’s do not wear a label, and that is a fact, and I know from experience that a good Fem/Domme is very hard to find, and if you are looking for a certain type then it is almost impossible. I was very lucky in my second marriage that I found both, and it was all done so subtle that it worked, and at no time were my limits breached, and once again it was because I allowed her to take charge. What took place between my Mistress wife and I will never be open to discussion, because she passed away two years ago and I will never replace her.

Regards ian 2411

[thir]

I didn’t explain myself very clearly and I apologise for that, I was in fact referring to Domme’s in vanilla marriages.

Ok, thanks.

As I did explain, Domme’s do not wear a label, and that is a fact, and I know from experience that a good Fem/Domme is very hard to find,
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Well, neither does a sub, or a Dom for that matter. You have to look in the right places is what I think.

I have often got into discussions about how many there may be of each kind (subs, Dom(me)s, switches) and it seems to vary a lot, but again, in the right places there they ALL are :-)

[Slavejamesuk]

i have spent many years reading stories from the library, and only very recently registered for chat. I think many men are more interested in pictures, stories and cyber than in chatting to discuss s&m.

I have been submissive all my life, for many years only to women, and most of whom I had to pay for thier attention.

I have been fortuante to have had a couple of girlfriends dominate me, but both only did it for my pleasure and neither were dommes, but i did live for 8 years with a pro dominatrix and she really enjoyed her work.

I am now bisexual in s&m and this has really opened me to new areas of submission.

With regard to chat and cyber I was very good at impersonating a female sub and had lots of fun and many hours with an erection teasing myself for as long as possible, one handed typing gets better with practice.

Hope everyone enjoys their submission and domination.
Deepest respects
James

[wannabeslave]

i am a male sub who does not have an agenda. i have posted here a couple of times and some other forums, but gotten very little response.

[thir]

i am a male sub who does not have an agenda. i have posted here a couple of times and some other forums, but gotten very little response.

What do you want a response to? Have you got a question or a topic you would like to discuss?

[thir]

With regard to chat and cyber I was very good at impersonating a female sub and had lots of fun and many hours with an erection teasing myself for as long as possible, one handed typing gets better with practice.

Hope everyone enjoys their submission and domination.
Deepest respects
James

Did you do this impersonating because you cannot get answers as a male sub?

[wannabeslave]

i was simply commenting that i am a male sub as someone earlier claimed that we were hard to find

[thir]

i was simply commenting that i am a male sub as someone earlier claimed that we were hard to find

Ok. Glad to see you and others popping up :-)

[Slavejamesuk]

I impersonated because I had deep fantasy of being a female submissive
i could see myself as a female slave. But it is also true to say I found it easier to get cyber as fem sub. But when I was impersonating Suki
I did not act out my bi male fantasy
hope that explains
best wishes James

[Bernardobravo]

Hello everyone

Just joined the library. First try at posting ?? Does it work ???

[wannabeslave]

It doesn't work if you are a male sub trying to find a Domme. i guess they just don't believe us.

[spank_my_]

My personal experience...

I joined a week or two ago.

I had a look at the welcome postings and at the submissives seeking Masters forum postings. I noticed that female subs get quite a few responses, Male subs get very few, if any.

Undeterred, I posted a introduction and "seeking" messages. I got the few "welcome" messages which i did appreciate, but no interest (as yet) from a Domme.

My profile isn't a 200 page novel, but it is not empty either.

I will keep checking back, but i'm also looking elsewhere.

I guess that is what the other male subs did too.

Perhaps if i keep looking, i'll find where the other male subs have gone. Maybe i'll find the dungeon and my superDomme.

still hopeful
sm_

[denuseri]

Posting an add in the personals section or having a pretty profile is not the only or best way to attract a female dominant.

You need way more exposure than that.

Posting frequently and meaningfully in a wide variaty of places in the forums as well as participating in an adult and respectful manner in chat can help a lot more.

Attending functions within your local scene is also a good idea.

And as ian mentioned, you never know when you will find a woman out there who may feel willing to fill your needs.