W/we have kids...changes everything dramatically! it creates a curve in what He expects of me when they are around. W/we have been forced to step out of whatever romantic notions W/we have had and to value little forms of D/s throughout the day. for example when i am awake i wear a slave anklet...kids love the bells! as i have to work i am allowed to tuck it in a sock! things like capitalization for Him and lowercase for me take on a real meaning as 50% of the time W/we are under cover! He jokes all the time about if He wins lotto, He will get a nanny and a maid so i can be locked in a cage when He isn't busy with me. thanks for the well thought out post!