Just remember that one day, you will be asked what "Okimawiw" means, and then will come the questions about why you call Him "Master".

i totally agree with delia......it is your life, but this is reality. We can't have it all.

i disagree in that once the state gets involved in your life, you can expect to have many many hardshhips. You MUST protect yourselves! If the right people around you get wind of your BDSM activities, you could be facing Protective Services. We BDSMers are not looked upon as sane....and they make money off of an open case. So you have to take precautions. i live in the Bible Belt. Southern Baptists everywhere! The submissive wife is accepted and respected here......but if they discovered that our closet is filled with the proverbial whips and chains, i could lose my son, and be forced to hire an attorney, and ............well, i'm sure you can imagine. So be very very careful!

i'm almost an empty-nester though. And when that happens.....well, look out world, roxi the slave will be much more visible. i even wear a locking collar now. as far as everyone is concerned, it is a choker. Most just think i'm "Goth" hehe. i wear a tattoo that says "female slave" in Japanese letters. When people ask what it is, i say it is something personal between my Husband and me. We are a little bolder than most, possibly because we don't have family around to be nosey.

As far as others to talk to, girlfriends...my Husband and i belong to a yahoo group of people who are from our area. We attend munches once a month, and Christmas parties...and even play parties. This gives me the ability to comfortably talk about BDSM stuff face to face with someone other than the computer. Mind you, places like this are great for having the support you might need, but really, having actually met with others in real life, there's nothing like human contact face to face. You might run a google search for BDSM activities in your area and see what you come up with. You might have to use many different terms. Just be very careful. You want a group who meets in public, and be sure that you trust your instincts!! Our group has a munch at a restaurant once a month. If you want to be invited to the Christmas party, you have to attend a set number of these munches. The play parties are similar, though we haven't had the pleasure of being able to attend the ones that we were invited to. We do karaoke night at some of the local bars, as well as cook-outs and other fun stuff.

Hope this helps!