i have been learning the same thing, sometimes it is difficult. W/we have used alot of little things to demonstrate O/our relationships to eachother. Things like capitalization are important to Him because it is a quiet way to demonstrate my submissiveness. i use a title the kids don't really notice, Okimawiw as i posted in other threads. the rougher stuff is kept for U/us alone and i have been learning not to be bratty while they are around which was a flaw in my character. W/we have come up with codes to know if i am displeasing Him as it is easy to show approval. the kids don't question any of the service oriented things at all. they just see it as this is what mom does, and the boys all enjoy Him being the head of the household. my daughter is in college now, she just thinks i am stuck in another era. enjoy!