First off let me say Thank you for sharing I can imagine that was hard for you comming to the realization that you had and congratulations for being able to recognize it now.. I am happy that you have found yourself a Kind Dom to help you get thru it.. please becareful and rememeber to try and set limits N negotiations .. Sounds like he is about that too though.. As times goes you will start to look at things all diffrently with your relationship with your former and i hope that you growth infinitly, Hopefully it will have helpped you to find a voice in the end.. Good luck N Best wishes..