thank you for your words here and sharing the podcast as well. i think that as Master and i have handled learning about BDSM relationships from very different sources. i have been the one to look up all i can and ask a million questions, He didn't have nearly as much trouble with acceptance as i did also so He didn't feel the need to "understand" everything in the way i do. the more i hear from others i believe that i am on the right track for U/us and how to find O/our way through all this. He very much likes the door thing by the way as it was something that seemed to be there all on its own with the exception of me waiting for Him. some of the household service things were things i did already but my attitude is different. i appreciate your feedback very much