Lied/trust

[Miner]

hello, i am trying to help a friend of mine who is a slave herself. Her Master promised her that when she joined her Master he would not be seeing any other slave/subs for pain/pleasure/fun and would concentrate on her. Well she has just found out that her Master has been seeing this one particular slave and is coming to see Master next month for a days session of pain/pleasure/fun and wants her to join in with the fun. My friend is in a TPE 24/7 relationship with her Master with not many hard limits and has a safe word but hardly uses it as she trusts her Master that he would stop straight away by her body actions in which he does stop instantly. Now she feels betrayed, lied to and has lost her trust with her Master by seeing this particular slave and who is coming next month. Can she ever find that trust with her Master ever again. She feels also jealous as her Master is taking more attention to this other slave than he is with her and she feels it could cause problems with her and her Master. Has anybody got any suggestions many thanks singletaillover

She feels lied to? Good grief, girl, she was lied to. The dominant is not playing fair by her, and if he promised he'd stop playing with slaves, and hasn't then he is not trustworthy. She should let him know just how unhappy she is, and, if he's npt prepared to live up to his initial promise, then she should walk away from the relationship.

He has no right to make this a test of his 24/7 slave, if that's what he says he's doing. That would be a huge weasle on his part, since all he's really doing is telling his slave he doesn't care two hoots for her, and that he will do what he wants, regardless of how much she gets hurt in the process, and that his trustworthiness is nonexistant.

He's not a trustworthy dominant when it comes to making promises, and therefore, not one to trust with her safety since he is likely to take his own route regardless of her wishes, desires or needs.

The only safe thing for your friend to do is to walk away from the liar

[lucy]

Walk away is maybe taking it a bit far, but i'd certainly have a lengthy talk with him and he better make sure he apologizes and works on himself to earn that trust - and respect - again.

[Miner]

Walk away is maybe taking it a bit far, but i'd certainly have a lengthy talk with him and he better make sure he apologizes and works on himself to earn that trust - and respect - again.

I do not think it warrants quite a dramatic response as immediate walking away... Yes, the liklihood is that he does not respect her and all the other things that Miner says are true and so the relationship will fail. However, a sensible and mature response is to have the conversation and give him the chance to explain himself. I have to say that it does not look good. If he'd made it clear he wanted to be poly or even if they'd never discussed it and she just assumed then there may be a way out that leaves them still in a relationship but there is the case that he told her he wasn't going to do this then did. What he should have done was informed her that he wanted to change the nature of the relationship and that the initial conditions were changing.

Both of you read her post again, please. It sounds to me that he made the initial promise then broke it. In my book that is a serious breach of trust.

Such a breach of his own promise poses issues. I would NOT accept that from a sub of mine, and I would definitely NOT respect a fellow dominant who lied so blatantly to his sub.