I've been into BDSM for years. When I was younger I didn't know what I liked had a name(s). My boyfriend and I are headed for our 4 year anniversary in a couple days. He is not a dom by any means. I would love for him to be but..... he's not.I've explained what I want, how I want it but it's like he forgets. When we 'play' he'll get into it but not as much as I'd like. He has vanilla interests in sex. I'm just starting to ask myself if I love him enough to go without getting my cravings fulfilled. Or if we could have an open relationship or I don't know. My mind is just so cluttered. I just don't know what to do and not really sure why I'm writing. I just need someone not in the relationship to give me some clarity or direction. Should I stay and try to talk it out again or start looking for someone else. We've been together since high school and it's been great. But the sex is not what I crave.