Dominant loopholes

[Ozme52]

My little one's whole life revolves around pleasing me, on making me happy; he feels successful when he hears his two favorite words in the whole world: "good boy". There aren't "rules" or "loopholes", there's "service." He his happy to be my sub, he wants to be my sub; if, somehow, I failed to have dominance over him in some way he'd gently point it out and say "Mistress, what are my directions for this?"

If he ever played some loophole game like that I think I'd feel extremely hurt that he was trying to "pull one over" on me; how can I trust him if I'm always afraid if he will skitter away from my grasp? It is like binding someone; they consent to the binding, they want to be bound, so if you miss a knot and they get loose they tell you and you re-tie it; they don't suddenly try to use their accidental freedom to try to escape.

Nicely stated.

Maybe you're not truly a submissive? Maybe you're a switch, or even dominant, perhaps you should look carefully at yourself and see what it is you truly desire in a relationship.

Good advice.

Or maybe you just crave a very strict Master and yours just isn't a good match for you, I suppose that could be the case .

Again, good advice, something for Fiesty to consider.

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Fiesty. Another perspective is not that you need a strict master, but that you need a master who prefers a consensual non-consenter. Someone who will enjoy capturing you and physically subduing you over and over again, someone who needs and wants every moment to be a struggle because it's the way he best feeds his need to express his power.

But that's not the role of a slave. That's not even a "typical" submissive (who serves and takes pleasure in serving.) If you enjoy that, then style yourself the consumate victim.

Your very name, it seems to me, is an oxymoron.

FiestyVictim might suit you better. And if you agree... then you may indeed have the wrong master.


N.B. No one need take offense at the use of "typical", I enquoted it to mean it to be "by my definition" and not necessarily anyone elses.