I do think I was in your exact relationship about 3 years ago....I was with the guy almost 5 years, since I was in high school together. Things went well until we moved in together and they slowly went south. He was the "nice guy" in the relationship, he needed attention and hugging and touching and all that...I worked 2 jobs to support him while he was in school and put my education and my desires on the back burner for him. I was always way into bdsm and he could barely take an interest in anything besides plain normal vanilla sex. I wanted roleplaying, toys, something...to keep me interested. I have a high sex drive, but I get bored easy.

I really couldn't even get him to be rough with me, because he was always worried he'd "hurt me" and no matter how many times I replied "short of stabbing me, you aren't going to." I was severely disassociated from the relationship by year number 5 and even when he "tried" you could openly tell he wasn't into it.

I eventually lost interest in him and the relationship. I had a few online affairs with D/s relationships that way to keep me entertained and at least give me something to daydream about while we were having sex. I broke up with him 3 times, it wasn't just over that, but I needed a "dominant", someone that desired to be a provider, a protector, that could shove me against the wall and stick his tongue down my throat. That would throw my ass back in line when I was out of it, and could live up to his promises.

I always went back b/c he'd call and beg me to come back, and I always did. Mostly b/c I thought I deserved to be treated the way he treated me, that I'd never find anyone that's "as nice." despite the fact I wasn't really happy, he was really my first serious relationship and I didn't want to be responsible for hurting him.

End the end I lost a huge portion of myself, my self-respect and a whole lot of other things, but those were the most important to me b/c I didn't end something when it should've been and walked away. I didn't seek out what I needed to fulfill me and make me happy. Two weeks after we broke up the final time, I met my Owner and have been deliriously happy ever since.

He too has his problems, but omg he is 10000000000 and 1 times better than my ex at keeping me fulfilled.

Just my personal story. Nobody can make any decisions for you. But you need to consider whether or not you're willing to go the rest of your life w/o having that itch properly scratched.

B/c he did try sometimes, like I'm sure your's does...but b/c I knew he didn't really care for it, it was like scratching an itch with a pair of oven mitts on. It helps a little, but it's not really the perfect satisfying solution. And if he's not willing to let you have an open relationship or take on something else to satisfy it, what lengths are you willing to go to to satisfy it?